Comments on: The In-Between Times http://crujonessociety.com/2009/01/08/the-in-between-times/ Because the internet can't be all porn... Mon, 21 May 2012 02:01:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: jregolden http://crujonessociety.com/2009/01/08/the-in-between-times/comment-page-1/#comment-3030 jregolden Sat, 17 Jan 2009 17:12:57 +0000 http://crujonessociety.com/2009/01/08/the-in-between-times/#comment-3030 In the middle of the night I awoke following a dream -- the single most realistic dream I've ever had -- Marty called me and I talked to him. I awoke and wept. My best friend of 35 years gone but still with me. The rest of the world has somehow become a pallid shade of gray, and standing out in sharpest clarity is his absence. Last night I asked him where he was and he said he couldn't tell me, "I don't want to jinx it." It was so Marty. I stood in my hotel room last week, uncontrollably weeping at our loss. The matters at hand were of no consequence to me, the dithering, arguing, cajoling that is Washington stock-in-trade devolved into non-sensical braying of jackals. Son, your pain and mine and your mother's, are testimony to the selfless joy he brought us. Unlike you, I have experienced deep loss, it is always new, startling and inflicts indescribeable pain. As I write this I feel the huge hole that has been pulled from my being. We share this grief as we have shared so much in your 27+ years. At the risk of platitude, I affirm that this is part of life, we get a peek into the abyss and recoil. Later when the pain has dulled, the mystery and wonder of this existence remains, and we hold on a bit harder to those we cherish . In the middle of the night I awoke following a dream — the single most realistic dream I’ve ever had — Marty called me and I talked to him. I awoke and wept.

My best friend of 35 years gone but still with me. The rest of the world has somehow become a pallid shade of gray, and standing out in sharpest clarity is his absence. Last night I asked him where he was and he said he couldn’t tell me, “I don’t want to jinx it.” It was so Marty.

I stood in my hotel room last week, uncontrollably weeping at our loss. The matters at hand were of no consequence to me, the dithering, arguing, cajoling that is Washington stock-in-trade devolved into non-sensical braying of jackals.

Son, your pain and mine and your mother’s, are testimony to the selfless joy he brought us. Unlike you, I have experienced deep loss, it is always new, startling and inflicts indescribeable pain. As I write this I feel the huge hole that has been pulled from my being.

We share this grief as we have shared so much in your 27+ years. At the risk of platitude, I affirm that this is part of life, we get a peek into the abyss and recoil. Later when the pain has dulled, the mystery and wonder of this existence remains, and we hold on a bit harder to those we cherish .

]]> By: Gutter http://crujonessociety.com/2009/01/08/the-in-between-times/comment-page-1/#comment-2838 Gutter Thu, 08 Jan 2009 16:34:28 +0000 http://crujonessociety.com/2009/01/08/the-in-between-times/#comment-2838 Sorry to hear of your loss. It helps to have so many loved ones helping you through a tough time like this and it seems you have great people around you. Our prayers and thoughts are with you. Sorry to hear of your loss. It helps to have so many loved ones helping you through a tough time like this and it seems you have great people around you. Our prayers and thoughts are with you.

]]> By: jitterrawks http://crujonessociety.com/2009/01/08/the-in-between-times/comment-page-1/#comment-2837 jitterrawks Thu, 08 Jan 2009 16:32:12 +0000 http://crujonessociety.com/2009/01/08/the-in-between-times/#comment-2837 Wow, man, I'm sorry. It's not easy to deal with sudden death, and your description above sounds just like what I've gone through before...my love is with you and your family. I have this photo up in my office of us at a party at Marika's-hope you get that self-assured smirk/grin back soon Wow, man, I’m sorry. It’s not easy to deal with sudden death, and your description above sounds just like what I’ve gone through before…my love is with you and your family. I have this photo up in my office of us at a party at Marika’s-hope you get that self-assured smirk/grin back soon

]]> By: augie.maestas http://crujonessociety.com/2009/01/08/the-in-between-times/comment-page-1/#comment-2836 augie.maestas Thu, 08 Jan 2009 16:24:29 +0000 http://crujonessociety.com/2009/01/08/the-in-between-times/#comment-2836 Dagger - I am sorry to hear about your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers. Take care of yourself. As for the way you were and are feeling. It does get better. After a while, you can only smile about their passing because you can only remember all the good times you had with that person. Every once in a while you will do something and it will remind you of them, that is when you look up at the sky and let him know you are thinking of him. It is a good feeling. After 6 years, I still talk to my grandma that way, and I know she looks down on me once in a while. Keep a smile on your face, and know he is in a better place. Dagger – I am sorry to hear about your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers. Take care of yourself. As for the way you were and are feeling. It does get better. After a while, you can only smile about their passing because you can only remember all the good times you had with that person. Every once in a while you will do something and it will remind you of them, that is when you look up at the sky and let him know you are thinking of him. It is a good feeling. After 6 years, I still talk to my grandma that way, and I know she looks down on me once in a while.

Keep a smile on your face, and know he is in a better place.

]]> By: keithage http://crujonessociety.com/2009/01/08/the-in-between-times/comment-page-1/#comment-2835 keithage Thu, 08 Jan 2009 15:36:06 +0000 http://crujonessociety.com/2009/01/08/the-in-between-times/#comment-2835 Transitions, they're a bitch and a blessing. Transitions, they’re a bitch and a blessing.

]]> By: Deuce http://crujonessociety.com/2009/01/08/the-in-between-times/comment-page-1/#comment-2833 Deuce Thu, 08 Jan 2009 15:00:31 +0000 http://crujonessociety.com/2009/01/08/the-in-between-times/#comment-2833 I am very sorry for your's and your family's loss. My prayers and condolences will be with you all, Mr. Dagger. I hope your smoking is only temporary, however. I am very sorry for your’s and your family’s loss. My prayers and condolences will be with you all, Mr. Dagger.

I hope your smoking is only temporary, however.

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